Meet to provide an overview of the concepts of interdependence including:
- Summarize and review Independence (habits 1-3) vs. Interdependence (habits 4-6)
- Focus on the interactions between team members:
- Hidden Agendas (and how they damage trust and affect goals and priorities)
- Defending/loyalty to the Absent (and how it builds trust)
- Respecting everyone's role and the importance of avoiding words and ideas like "key", "subordinate", etc.
- Emphasize that leadership is a service role. Leaders are there to facilitate and encourage, not to dictate.
- Discuss how the habits of interdependence are all about building relationships and the trust that makes teams effective and successful.
Habit 4 (think win-win or no deal):
Start with an email asking them to review:
Follow up with a meeting:
- Zero-sum vs. abundance mentality and how it affects relationships/trust (and it's relation to thinking win-win or no deal)
- The difference between win-win and compromise
- Review examples of cases where you have used win-win or no deal
An example from my own experience: a neighbor was upset with another neighbor for having a car up on blocks for an extended period and asked what legal options they could use to force them to get rid of it. This is an example of zero-sum thinking: I get my way or he gets his way; someone wins, someone loses. Better approach: seek first to understand: why is the car up on blocks? No money to fix? Injured and can't fix, Consider a win-win or no deal approach:
- You noticed their car has been out of commission, would they like help fixing it?
- If car is dead, take up a collection from other neighbors who would like it gone...10 neighbors *$25 each = $250 for the car? Purchase and donate it to a charity (many will take a junk car)
- Discuss the importance of making this a habit - it's something you have to force yourself to do until it becomes habit.
- Ask students to think about cases where they've used zero-sum thinking and how they might have approached it as win-win
Send students an email asking them to prepare for a discussion on habit 5 (seeking first to understand, then be understood).
